Thursday, November 10, 2016
Don't Be Afraid To Ask For Help
While talking to a friend this morning I kept reminding her of something, don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it! It reminds me that good people don't often ask for help because they don't want to bother others with their problems. So we end up with a bunch of good people being isolated from others because they don't want to be a burden to others. The ones who often need help the most are the ones who will not ask for it.
I am also guilty of not asking for the help of others, but then I remind myself that those close to me feel better when they are able to help me. I think I am being a burden because I believe that the other person has enough of their own stuff to deal with, while their perception is completely different. If you have caring and compassionate people in your life then they will feel better if given the opportunity to help ease your suffering.
This is where we need to change our mindset. I understand isolating our problems from most of the world around us, because so many people are judgmental and lack the empathy required to understand what we are going through. There are people out there who truly want to help you and want nothing in return. Their reward is in helping you. Because they are caring and empathetic individuals, they simply want to see you happier and more at peace. Let them help.
Don't be afraid to ask for help from those who are offering from their heart. They are doing it out of caring and compassion, and you are not a burden to them. Not everyone in the world is self-centered and if you look hard enough, you will begin to see the people in your world who truly have your best interests at heart. Turn to them when you are struggling and they will turn to you when they are. We all need to collaborate and socialize from time to time, and this is essential to working through problems that you cannot take care of alone.
There are others out there suffering from invisible illnesses just like you. Don't be afraid to reach out them for some understanding. Don't go looking for friends and family to counsel you, just look for caring individuals who will listen to you with understanding and realization that they are helping you. Let them help even if it is simply by being a good listener.
The more you share your issues, the less weight you will fell in your mind. Find someone you trust and share those things you have been holding onto for so long. Don't repress things, face them. The more you face them, the stronger you will get, and the less fear you feel. Ask for help!